Try to be like Sri Caitanya Mahaprabhu and His associates. They were so broadminded.

Posted on January 15, 2011 by Raghava No Comments

Srila Gurudeva Speaks About Good Communication in his introductory lecture of a six-day course on Sri Bhakti-tattva-viveka

First try to give up all your false egos, like anger. If you have so much anger, you cannot understand all these topics.

Try to be very humble:

trnad api sunicena taror api sahisnuna
amanina manadena kirtaniyah sada harih

“Thinking oneself to be even lower and more worthless than the insignificant grass which is trampled beneath the feet of all, being more tolerant than a tree, accepting no honor, but offering respect to all others according to their respective positions, one should continuously chant the holy name of Sri Hari.” (Siksastakam, verse 3)

This should not only be in Sri Caitanya-caritamrta; it should come in your heart. If you are not always following this, but you are always in an arrogant mood and telling others, “You should obey me, I will not obey you. What I am telling is true to the highest extent” – not considering what the other person is telling, or whether he is giving good or bad advice – this not good. Do not be like this.

Try to be like Sri Caitanya Mahaprabhu and His associates. They were so broadminded. Always see what other persons want. Try to realize their difficulties.

We should try to understand the suffering of another. We should try to keep our own mood concealed, and try to accept and hear the other person’s mood. We should try to understand the happiness and distress of another. We should give up our own moods and hear the other person’s moods. Then, together, we can consider what to do. If we do not hear the other person’s mood, but rather keep our own mood prominent, this is not called ‘association’.

There are four duties of a madhyama-adhikara: love (prema) to Sri Krsna or Sri Caitanya Mahaprabhu, and friendship to Vaisnavas. We should give friendship and service to those who are superiors. To those who are equal, we should give so much friendship. To those who are junior, we should give friendship with some mercy and compassion.

Kanistha Vaisnavas, those who are not very advanced, should be given so much mercy. Always tell them hari-katha. They may do something wrong, but we should tolerate that. If doctors are going to operate on someone, and that person abuses the doctor or others, still, the doctor (or mother) very patiently tolerates and does the needful. So, we should tolerate all these things. We should obey this principle.

We should try to neglect those people who have an opposing mood and are making some offense, but we should not quarrel with them. We should follow the example of Prahlada Maharaja – how he reciprocated with his father. We should also follow the example of how Yudhisthira Maharaja reciprocated with Duryodhana. Yudhisthira Maharaja never called him Duryodhana, but rather Suryodhana. [‘Duryodhana’ refers to a bad person, and ‘suduryodhana’ refers to a good person.] Also, he addressed Dushasana as Susasana, and Karna as Sukarna.

We should try to follow all of these principles. This is the ground-level – the platform – of bhakti. If the platform is not made, then all these showers of instructions (Hari-katha; in this case he means his six-day course on Sri Bhakti-tattva-viveka) may come but you but will not remain with you. If your ego is like a mountain, then this shower will go down the mountain. It will not remain on it. Those who are polite, trnad api sunicena, will gain everything; and those who are proud will gain nothing.